I have been blessed to have wonderful memories of Christmas, but while I revel in the delights of this season, I am not so naive that I believe no one struggles with grief and loneliness during this season of togetherness.
For many lonely people, Christmas is pouring salt on a wound. Everyone's family gets together, everyone is buying gifts for loved ones, everyone is happy.
By contrast, the lonely people are nothing short of miserable in this season of joy.
If this is you, I am sorry. I want to be joyful, but not at the expense of making you blue.
But if this is you, I also encourage you to find someone with whom to spend time. You are not the only lonely person around. Who else would love to get together around Christmas time? Could you host a Christmas dinner with a few friends who have no family nearby? If not, could you volunteer at a soup kitchen (or visit a nursing home)? When you come home, you could take a hot shower, cuddle up with a blanket and cup of hot cocoa, and watch an old movie. Even being alone doesn't have to be lonely. Could you attend a Christmas service somewhere? Or maybe buy yourself a present?
What new traditions can you create that will give you happy things to look back on? Just because previous Christmases were rotten does not mean that future ones are condemned as well.
In short, even Blue Christmases will pass.